It was one of those nights where my little brother and I shared the couch and a warm comforter, watching what we could watch on a Sunday night. It wasn’t even ten yet and already our eyes were drooping, conversation null and attentions drifting elsewhere.

I remembered another night: off the cold, wind-swept streets of Chinatown, sitting across my companion in a small, brightly-lit restaurant. Conversation was full then, our laughter mingling in the warm air with the other patrons’ discourse. Our discussions ranged from updating each other of current situations, to reminiscing on past events we’d already reminisced about hundreds of times, and to random, random topics (it was this that brought us together as friends in the first place – healthy common interest). Conversation ebbed and flowed that night, the pace never settled into one, but the comfort level was always constant.

It was during that time when the pauses were longer that she asked, “So how’s           ?”

And that memory led me down another train of thought.

Breathe. Reevaluate. Remember, and know, what’s important.


I don’t believe you can be genuinely good to others when you can’t be good to yourself.

Sometimes we just need to slow down. Stop thinking. Breathe. Reevaluate our actions. And just remember and know what’s important. It’s not easy because we have to put things down; maybe our pride, or the things we really want, or our egos, and even all three and more.


I really believe that the hardest thing to get over is ourselves, but once that happens, things are a little easier to handle. Things become a bit clearer, and the will to move forward is just a bit stronger.


But maybe that’s just me. If anything, just don’t ever forget who or what is important to you.




I love you (plural). And I miss you (plural).
I’m doing the best I know how. But you, how are you?

Y’all need to give me a sign if you still come around this part of the web ;’)